They say writing is a lonely profession. Most of us write alone. Our stories are our ideas, and no one can write them better than us. But the other side of that lonely profession is the assumption that loneliness is bad, something we should not embrace. That it is inherently bad for us, and causes emotional distress.
But some studies out there indicate that being alone isn’t really all that bad for us. In fact, it can have some huge benefits. And this doesn’t just apply to writers, although I can see a few of the positives being extra positive for writers. It applies to everyone. I know for me, being alone, enjoying some aspects of life by myself, can be cleansing, highly enriching, and definitely fulfilling. Without the chatter and busy-ness of another person, I can concentrate on thoughts, feelings, and just being who I am.
I will say that when I am alone, I am never lonely. I’m pretty good company for myself. Which, too, is a healthy thing.
Here are some of the benefits of being alone:
Being alone will make you more creative. Brainstorming with others seems to be touted as the way to reach the best ideas. But research shows that people come up with their better ideas on their own.
It will make you work harder. No group projects here, where someone does part of the work, another does none of the work, and you fill in the rest. You get to create from beginning to end, and have complete control over the process and the result.
If you are an introvert, it goes without saying. I am an extrovert but I “re-charge” by being alone. The quiet, the “space bubble,” make it optimal for me to find my center and serenity again.
It helps clear your mind. See above. When you are alone, you are not “on,” you are in a rest or stasis period. At least, your brain is. It allows the brain to refocus.
You get to do what you want to do. This is huge for me. As a wife, mother, daughter, employee, my workload is vast and varied, and often not about me or what I want or need. Being alone is my time. I can do what I want with that time, with my thoughts, with my actions. I find it is helpful to be a little “selfish,” and get my alone time. I’m much more able to function effectively later when it is time to not be alone anymore.
How do you see your alone time? Is it a benefit, or not? Answer in the comments!
Coming June 5th! Fairest of the Faire by Susabelle Kelmer
Schoolteacher Connie Meyers is suddenly a young widow, her husband killed in a horrific car accident. Heartbroken to find out he had gambled away everything they had, she moves to her sister-in-law’s Midwest home to rebuild her life. A trip to the local Renaissance Faire with her nieces leads to a summer job as a costumed storyteller.
Avowed bad boy and fair performer Gage Younglood is infatuated with Connie at first sight. Despite his deliberately commitment-free life, and Connie’s don’t-touch-me attitude, he soon has her in his arms, realizing quickly she is also in his heart.
When she is threatened by her late husband’s bookie, he steps into the role of protector, his fate forever sealed with hers.